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My notes from Ramit Sethi's content on getting referrals:

A lot of the times when I’m out networking there aren’t many people who actually need my services. But this doesn’t mean I should give up, a lot of them can act as connectors.

So, after a good conversation use this script:

“I don’t need anything right now, but I just want to let you know that I am looking for a few new clients for my video production services and I’d love it if you introduced me if you think of anyone who’s a good fit”

Or

“John, great talking to you. I’m always taking on new clients, so if you know anyone who needs video production, feel free to give them my contact. And let me know if there’s ever anything I can do to help you too”

Catastrophising

On minimalift

My wife-to-be is wired for disaster. At the first hint of trouble, her mind runs through every possible worst case scenario, and by the way she reacts you’d think all of them had happened at once.

Here’s a typical example. This morning, she woke up feeling exhausted. It was 6.30am and she had an appointment with her trainer - thankfully not me - at 8am. She was all but ready to cancel because she felt she hadn’t had enough sleep. I pointed out that we had gone to bed at 10pm the night before (that rockstar lifestyle), and even with a couple of disturbances that’s still nearly eight hours. Yet, I still had a struggle on my hands convincing her to just show up and see what happens.

Lo and behold, she had a great session, and even remarked that the weights felt light today. Notice the word “feeling” has come up twice now, once in the negative and later in the positive. I could trot out the old “how you feel is a lie” cliche but that’s done to death now. What I wanted to bring to your attention is the catastrophising that happens when things aren’t going as planned.

Let’s compare that example with my current training situation. I injured my right hip last week front squatting. It hurt a fair bit and left me limping, but I shrugged it off as no big deal. A couple of days rest and gentle somatic movement and I’ll be good to go. Sure enough, I was feeling fine on Wednesday, just in time for more squatting. Even more pain, yet I stubbornly finished my sets. More limping, more rest. Okay, no more squatting til I’m healed but still I’m comfortable with the disruption to the program.

Saturday morning and I’m down at the national centre, and my snatch has gone to pieces. The pain in my hip is so bad that I’m unintentionally narrowing my base in the receive position. I’ve seen this before in a fellow weightlifter who had hip troubles; it’s an automatic response guarding the site of pain. By now, many beginner and intermediate lifters would be out of their minds with angst about not being able to train, racked with frustration and feeling helpless.

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